Your CommentsThis page gives the feedback and comments that have been received about the website from people who have used the ideas and approaches described. If you have any questions in relation to the content of the website that you would like answered, please use the form on the Questions? page for this.
Comment: Hi Alan.
This article is the BEST article on questioning I have ever read and I'd like, with your permission, to pass it along to our mediators. Your examples of both genuinely open and 'not-so-open' with explanations are very insightful.
Hi Alan, You have put together an awesome web site with lots of fantastic materials. John Ford - Managing Editor Mediate.com
After reading the Rescuer Syndrome section of your website I was inspired to try Byron Katie's approach to her sons arguing. Two of my sons age 10 and 3 argue some of the time and I always end up somewhere in the middle and nearly always being the bad guy to either one or both. It's impossible to please both and if you punish one it is bound to be the wrong one (in their eyes). So the day I read your site as if on cue the boys had a big row. I took a massive step back and ignored the pleas from both to intervene and tell the other off. I just looked on to see where this would lead. My youngest son, who generally comes off worse as he is not as physically or verbally able as the older, showed his frustration by tearing up a picture of his brother saying "this is what I think of you". At this point the argument seemed to fizzle out and ended up with older son explaining to younger how by tearing up his picture he had hurt his feelings and then asked him "How would you like it if I tore up a picture of you?" Younger son said that "It would make me feel sad". With that their argument was settled and they went off together and played happily for the rest of the afternoon. I was absolutely amazed. They had argued, sorted out the argument with older son explaining his feelings to younger and I stayed in everyone's good books. I call that a result. Sending you thanks KC - Wolverhampton, UK
Your site is really good!!! AW - Relationship Coach, Bristol, UK
I always interrupt my wife, and I have a hard time listening to her. I found some very useful beginnings to healing my inabilities. Randy - USA
I reckon your site is just amazing with thoughts/words that many of us should try to embrace and the world could be a much brighter and more peaceful place just to be !!! Its really easy to follow the flow of your words and I love the links to other people also with beautiful ideas-thoughts. JN - London, UK
Thankz for the Newsletter. I found the content interesting and educating. Keep keeping on.
Hi Alan, ..... your site is great. I've been reading all the material and have to say its already made a difference in how I sort out/manage some of life's little problems. JH - West London, UK
We are in the process of designing a 40 hour Civil Mediation trainingprogram and would like your permission to use some of your material with the proper citation and any other information you may want. We will be including your website and your ebook "The Guide to the Principles of Effective Communication and Conflict Resolution" in our recommended reading/reference section as well. Respectfully requested,
Dear Mr. Sharland, A colleague of mine pointed out your article "Questioning" on mediate.com. I work in the Superior Court of the District of Columbia in Washington, DC. Specifically, I'm writing from the Multi-Door Dispute Resolution Division where we train volunteer mediators who handle up to 6,000 cases per year. We mediate all non-civil cases in Washington DC before a trial can take place. Now that you know a little about where I come from, I'd like to issue a request. We really enjoyed your article on open ended questions and we'd like to publish it in a newsletter that is disseminated to many of the judges in our court as well as all of our volunteer mediators. We currently have a roster of about 300 mediators at The Multi-Door Division.
Alan, I work at a homeless shelter/rehab and I teach a class on community living. This is a new field of employment for me. I can use this site for ideas for the class I teach. This is going to be very interesting and educational for myself as well as others. This site is a big help. Thank you! TM, Kentucky, USA
Hi Alan... I am a recently resigned Primary Headteacher (and now Shaman) who used meditation, healing words, conflict resolution and emotional intelligence as my professional essence. You have added yet so many more pieces so beautifully, by this incredible site alone...thank you so much Alan. Joy in your resolutions!!!! Anni with joyful smile :-)
"I did a 1 hour workshop where I presented your Facts and Feelings Listening Exercise. We learned so much about how we listen and the consequences of not listening well that I was asked to purchase your book and have another Listening Meeting. My team just launched a project that could have whipped the team members and executives into a tremendous conflict. I required everyone to follow your rules for listening and it has been the best implementation we have had in 10years. Thank you for your generous and comprehensive communications and conflict resolution information." Angela - Information Technology & Systems VP
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